I hope you had a wonderful Mother's Day....I certainly enjoyed mine :)
The boys seemed to have a good weekend as well :)
Have you ever noticed that relationships with parents and family doesn't always look like a Hallmark Card? I know the hardest job I've had in my entire life is being a mother and step-mother. When times get tough I think to myself...."who's idea was this anyway?" AND....I would not trade a child I have or have nurtured for anything...sometimes I just need to say...DAMN....this is hard!
My relationship with my Mother was not a Hallmark card...until the last three months of her life. I find it very easy to forgive her shortcomings because I know there isn't a one of us that were born with a menu to choose our strengths, weaknesses, temperaments, genetic predispositions, appearances, talents....not a single person alive gets to choose. All we can do is the best we can with what we have and take responsibility for our choices.
As a mother I do the very best I can and I hope to God it is good enough.....I hope they forgive me one day for my short comings and know all I ever wanted for each of them is to be loving, kind and happy human beings. I don't care one iota what jobs they have or how much or little money they make. What is most important to me is that they are honest with themselves and one another, that they are kind and generous with their gifts and talents and that they come to know what it is that they are responsible for in this lifetime.
Imagine a Sit Com that was about those folks who could and did choose their attributes? I bet there would be folks, including myself, who would make a mess of that too....ROFL. The human condition/experience....not very pretty at times....but it sure is amazing and wonderful all at the same time.
Smiles,
Kelly
Have you ever noticed that relationships with parents and family doesn't always look like a Hallmark Card? I know the hardest job I've had in my entire life is being a mother and step-mother. When times get tough I think to myself...."who's idea was this anyway?" AND....I would not trade a child I have or have nurtured for anything...sometimes I just need to say...DAMN....this is hard!
My relationship with my Mother was not a Hallmark card...until the last three months of her life. I find it very easy to forgive her shortcomings because I know there isn't a one of us that were born with a menu to choose our strengths, weaknesses, temperaments, genetic predispositions, appearances, talents....not a single person alive gets to choose. All we can do is the best we can with what we have and take responsibility for our choices.
As a mother I do the very best I can and I hope to God it is good enough.....I hope they forgive me one day for my short comings and know all I ever wanted for each of them is to be loving, kind and happy human beings. I don't care one iota what jobs they have or how much or little money they make. What is most important to me is that they are honest with themselves and one another, that they are kind and generous with their gifts and talents and that they come to know what it is that they are responsible for in this lifetime.
Imagine a Sit Com that was about those folks who could and did choose their attributes? I bet there would be folks, including myself, who would make a mess of that too....ROFL. The human condition/experience....not very pretty at times....but it sure is amazing and wonderful all at the same time.
Smiles,
Kelly
I love the purple pants with the green shirt.
ReplyDeleteAs for being a mother - I can only imagine the difficulties it brings. Between Hallmark and '60s television, we have rather idyllic ideas about motherhood that are just not true to life.
What a lovely post. My own mother was a hot mess. Her mental illness, not chosen by her or us, caused a lot of hurt for the whole family. But any strengths and all the empathy I have came from growing up in those circumstances, so how can I complain? As for the rest, as you say, hopefully I will be forgiven for my failings. And I definitely agree that I wouldn't have purposely chosen well if I'd been given the choice -- if I could have chosen I would have asked to be thin and blond and adorable instead of sturdy and strong and dependable, lol. :)
ReplyDeleteOh my gosh, I sure hope my sons can forgive me.... I have beentaking care of my mother and find it hard sometimes but it is good I am trying to let go of all the hurt and anger. Thanks for this post.
ReplyDeleteKelly, you are an amazing woman and I'm sure a wonderful mum!
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