Tuesday, April 23, 2013

Empty

I hope all of you know that this has been one of the most difficult and dark times of my life and at this time I'm empty....I have nothing to offer or share on my blog.  Please know I so appreciate each and every one of you so very much....and....while I am present for the process of my mother's health decline and eminent death....I have very little energy to post or share at this time.

For those of you who do not know, my mother is here with my family.  She has chosen hospice instead of chemo (it would have been my choice in this situation as well) and I am her main care giver.  I will not cheat either of us out of this time together.  I see my absence has affected my blog and business ....yet....I would not change a thing.

I'm still here and if and when I'm able to share....I'll definitely post again.   I appreciate your understanding.

Kelly

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  1. Kelly, take care of yourself and your mom and know that we are thinking of you.

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  2. You have your priorities in the right order. But please don't forget when you are on empty there are others that care about you deeply and are sending positive thoughts and prayers out to you and your mother daily.

    Big hug Kelly.

    SewCalGal
    www.sewcalgal.blogspot.com

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  3. Kelly, please know you are doing the right thing. You will never regret spending this time with your mother and caring for her. I haven't regretted at all the times I took away from my life to care for my parents and my husband's parents. It is a blessing when you can return the care to them that he or she gave to you when you were young. Love her, tell her how much she means to you while you can. We love you and are praying for you and your family during this time.

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  4. Kelly, you are doing what matters most. Everyone understands that, and we'll be here when you're ready. I know that caregiving can by physically draining and pretty tough on the emotions as well, and yet it is also a precious opportunity. I am sending much love to you and your mom, and keeping your family in my prayers--and I'm certain I am joined by many other people who know you as I do, through your blog.

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  5. Dear Kelly. I wish you every good thing in this horrible time. You are doing what you have to at this time. Try to enjoy your time with your mother and family. I am sending you good thoughts and love, and I'll keep a candle burning for you and your family.

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  6. Kelly please know that we will be here, we are praying for you and your family and I truly believe things are the way they should be at this time. You may be on empty but we are here for you.....sending all positive thoughts your way.

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  7. Kelly, a virtual hug to you. You are exactly where you need to be. I am thinking of you and sending prayers your way. Don't forget to care for yourself as well.

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  8. Kelly please don't apologize for putting your needs and the needs of your family before all of us. Each of us would do the same if we were in your shoes. Take care of yourself as best as you can and we'll still be here when you return. Huge hugs!

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  9. We'll all still be here!!! You need to do the 'important' once in a lifetime things and family is one of those....

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  10. I went through the same thing with my dad. It was without a doubt the most difficult thing I have done to date in my life, but I wouldn't have done a thing differently. I will tell you that one thing I learned through that process is to take time for yourself each day...even if it's just a few minutes. Lock yourself in your sewing room, go for a walk, anything as long as it's just for you...it's important! Take care and know that you and your mother remain in my thoughts and prayers.

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  11. Time with your Mom now is a precious commodity. You are using that time wisely. The family time is worth more than money can ever buy. Know that you and yours remain in my prayers. Hug each other lots, it helps. Share old stories and laugh.

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  12. Sending hugs & prayers!! (((((((Kelly))))))

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  13. Kelly, your mom made the right choice for her and so did you. There's nothing more important right now, do what you need to do, we're all here for you.

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  14. I was with my own mother through her illness and death. It was a profoundly sad and moving experience, one I was honored to have been a part of. Though hard, later you will be glad you were able to be there for and with her. My sympathie sand prayers go with you.

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  15. No explanation necessary, Kelly. You are doing the right thing. Hugs to you and your loved ones.

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  16. You and your family are in my prayers.

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  17. I think of you and your family every day. You're doing what's best for you and your family and we all understand. We'll all be here when you're ready to come back.

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  18. Family has to come first. Praying for you. I loved the card that your sweet mom sent back. Praying for her and your family. It is not easy being a caregiver but you will cherish these moments.

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  19. Kelly, take care of your mom and yourself. Your blogging friends will be praying and supporting. Your business will come back even stronger when the time is right. Please remember that if you don't take care of yourself mentally and physically now, you won't be able to care for those who need you later.

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  20. You have chosen the right thing. This is s very special time for you and your Mom. It most certainly means leaving other things for a while, but know that we all love your and miss you and will be here when you are ready to return. Take care my friend.

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  21. Family comes first. Prayers for you and yours. Know that God is there holding you up. I will still be here when you come back.

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  22. Family first Kelly, I did the same thing with my mom. Spend this precious time together. Hugs.

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  23. Your time with your Mom certainly is more important than work or blogging. We are all here; and will be here when you are back in full force. Take care.

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  24. Kelly, this is just a blog, nice, but, in the scheme of life, pretty unimportant. Your mother, on the other hand, is a very important part of your families life, now, and after her death. Make the most of this time with her. The memories you make now, will sustain you in your future, and give her comfort to her. Don't forget to take care of yourself. You can't care for others if you don't take care of yourself. If anyone in blogland expects more from you, then they just don't get it. We're still praying for your whole family.

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  25. Take care of you and your family, Kelly. Enjoy the time that you have together, I know you will cherish every single moment. Hugs and prayers to you. We will all be here when you need us and when you are ready to come back.

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  26. Your family is more important than your business!!!!
    Enjoy what time you have together! Sending hugs and prayers!

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  27. Praying that the wings of angels and the arms of friends surround you and your family.

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  28. Been there. My gpa-in-law was a kind man and chose hospice. Both me and my husband were there when he passed. Being there for her is most important for you right now and everyone who has gone through this understands.

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  29. A spare gallon should arrive in the mailbox today. Holler at me if you need help. I can fly there in a heartbeat.

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  30. Kelly, so sorry to hear about your mother. At least you are honest and realize that the blog is on the bottom of important things. You take care of your mom, yourself and family, while the rest of us lift you up in prayer.

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  31. Kelly, take care of your self. I am sending hugs and prayers to you and your Mom! Robin

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  32. Kelly, you are an awesome daughter! Relish the times and laughter you've shared. What a gift you are giving your mother - time! The important stuff in life is family, and you're putting your priorities in order correctly. Think of the good things, laugh over the funny things, like the party you just hosted, and laugh some more...

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  33. My heart is with you. The support may be virtual, but it is, nevertheless, there.

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  34. A girl's gotta do what a girl's gotta do...your friends know & understand, and every one of 'em says not to worry about the blog, they'll still be here when you're ready. So, there ya go, heed their advice, do what you've gotta do & no regrets, k? Sending hugs & prayers (and some puppy dog kisses, too!!) your way!

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  35. Bless you, Kelly. Take care of you and yours. Sending hugs and prayers :)

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  36. While we'll miss your posts, no one will begrudge you spending time with your mom. When you look back you'll never be sorry for time well spent and that's what you are doing now. Creating special memories during this painful time. Prayers for your mom, you, and your family.

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  37. i'm sorry for your troubles ... my prayers are for your and yours. forty years ago i was primary caregiver for my mom, too, as she was losing her battle with cancer. i'll always treasure that time with her.

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  38. Momma's always come first. I'll keep you all in my prayers. Gentle hugs.

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  39. I think it is wonderful that you can spend this time with your mom and nothing else matters, outside of that. My thoughts are with you and your mom.

    Debbie

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  40. Spending time with your mother is the most important thing right now. hugs and prayers

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  41. I am so sorry to hear what you are going though...we all do. I remember spending a week with my father close to the end (he didn't live near by) and 20 years later, it still warms my heart to know that I spent that precious time with him...my thoughts and prayers go with you, your family and your mother.

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  42. I am so sorry to hear what you are going through. It is so hard to see a loved one suffer and fade away. You are very brave and strong to be there for your Mother.

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  43. My prayers go out to you. Hang in their and take it one dayt at a time. May Goid grant you the strength to face the trials that each new day may bring.

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  44. Let me know if there are any errands I can do for you....really....

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  45. Kelly, you don't know me but I'm a nurse and have seen many families taking this same journey. As with any journey we always learn about the journey and ourselves. The gift you're giving your mo and family is priceless. Rejoice I your love for one another. Let your friends and blog followers carry you on this journey. Prayers for strength, peace and comfort are on the way.

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  46. What you are giving your mother is a most precious gift, one that will sustain you in dark days. I will forever be grateful that I could give time to my beloved Mom and MIL before they passed. We will keep. Not to worry. take care of yourself and your Mom and gather these memories to your heart. Sending my prayers.

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  47. Please take care...sending prayers:)

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  48. Kelly, Take care of yourself and you mother first. You'll never regret it. The business will be OK. Cindy H

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  49. We love you Kelly - you CAN do this!

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  50. The blog, the business, and all of your loyal readers will still be here once this is over. Do what you need to do. It's painful and draining but so important. The stuff that really matters is always hard. Bless you, Kelly, and know that you are in our thoughts.

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  51. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your mom. Take all the time you need, you won't regret it. We all understand, as many of us have traveled that road before.

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  52. Kelly, please take strength in knowing so many are thinking of you and your mom and sending their prayers. This tough goodbye is being softened with love.
    Michelle at Hoffman California

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  53. Family should ALWAYS come first. Thank you for seeing that and doing the right thing. It won't be easy--my mom just did this with my grandmother--but neither will you regret it.

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  54. You are doing the right thing. BLessings and prayers....and love....

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  55. Hugs and smoochies! Yes, know others do care, and have you in prayers.

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  56. You take all the time you need Kelly! I know from experience exactly what you are going thru.This is time for you and your mom, not for us. You need each more right now and don't be sorry at all for not blogging. And know, you HAVE made the right decision! Hugs and prayers going to you, your mom and your family.

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  57. You can only care for your family the way you think your family needs to be cared for, right now. You should never feel you need to apologize for that! Do not worry about other things. Please know that there are many of your loyal fans and customers praying for comfort and peace for all you at this time.

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  58. Dear Kelley, forget about us and know that you are making the only choice that you could to spent every moment you can with your beautiful Mother. We who love you will be here when you are ready to pick things up again. You have been on my mind and in my prayers. May God bring soliace and peace. Hugs and Blessings Sandra

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  59. Kelly--your family is in my thoughts and prayers. Spending time with family always comes first!

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  60. Kelly, your family always comes first no matter which one of them it is. Cherish this time you have with Mum, we will all still be here when you come back. Hugs Linda xxx

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  61. Kelly I know your pain. My Mother was sick for seven years. I love that you have chosen to share your beautiful Mother with us. You are both in my thoughts and prayers.

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  62. Family comes first...Mother's especially come first. Enjoy this precious time with her and don't worry about your business or your blog..it will all be waiting for you when you are ready. ((Hugs))

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  63. Everything will be here when younarebready to be back. This is the most wonderful gift you give your Mother. I was in the same place 25 yrs ago. It's was both the hardest and most rewarding thing I have ever done. Prayers for you all.

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  64. Kelly,
    Pleas know that I am thinking about you. I at times feel as though I am running on empty as well though for different reasons. When able please don't forget to take a few minutes for yourself even if its just to close your eyes and take a deep breath. Please let me know where I can send cards and Angels as I know that though they can't change the process that they help. We lost my sister in laws brother back in march and they seemed to brighten his day.

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  65. It is important that you send time with your Mum while you can and have no regrets later. We will be here when you are ready to come back. People will understand, many have had to go through this too. Remember to take care of yourself too.
    Barb@Witsend

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  66. You will bless the time you took off to be with your Mum. You will have blessed memories to look back on and no regrets or feelings of guilt. Your friends and customers will flock back, when you are ready. enjoy each day as it comes. my prayers and thoughts are with your family.

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  67. So sorry that your mom and your family are going through this hard time. YOu will never regret what you are doing, and your business will bounce back when you are ready to take charge again. Sending prayers your way.

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  68. I am sorry that you and your family are going through this. My 98-year old mother passed away last month so I understand the feelings you have shared with us. It's all just a step at a time, a step at a day. Slowly but surely life will happen like it's supposed to. You are all n thought and prayer.

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  69. Such a precious gift that you and your family are giving to your mother at this time. You will have no regrets that you took this time to help your mother through her final days. Take care of yourself. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

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  70. Prayers for you and your family!

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  71. Kelly I am so sorry that you are dealing with such sorrow and pain! As my own mother ages - today she is 75 - I am facing that time too someday sooner than I would have believed. My prayers are with you, your mom and your family at this time. Hugs & Blessings!

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  72. Kelly, just thinking of you and saying prayers. Peace be with you.

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  73. Thinking of you Kelly. Met you at the Mt Laurel Quilt Guild a few years ago in NE PA. Follow your blog often.

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  74. I've been in this situation but with life partner, YOU are blessed to do this; both Mother and you will gain from one of lifes hardest jobs. God bless and prayers!

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  75. Having been through the same situation with both my mother and then, my Kelly just 3 years ago, I completely understand. My heart and prayers are with you and your family, much love, XOXO

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  76. I was recently exactly where you are and am now 6 months after losing my mum and the hurt is still indescribable. I have no regrets at putting everything but my family on hold and look at life differently now. Thinking of you and youre never alone even if you are running on empty. x

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